Toddlers are famous for their tantrums, and even though these meltdowns are totally normal for this age group, experienced moms know they’re no fun to deal with. But there are some steps moms can take to stop tantrums before they start, or at least help calm their child down:

Ignore it. While this strategy is best saved for tantrums that take place at home, many moms find that the less response a tantrum gets, the sooner it will stop.

Keep him informed. Lots of toddlers need a little help making transitions from one activity or place to another. If you let him know what’s coming up next in his day, it can help ease feelings of anxiety about making the change.

Offer some choices. Giving your toddler some choices throughout the day (like cereal or fruit, blue shirt or red) helps him feel like he has some control over his life, which may make him less likely to resist you when a decision is not his.

Try to understand. The next time your toddler throws himself down on the floor in a fit, try to see things from his perspective: With so many new experiences and emotions going on in your life and so few words to explain them, wouldn’t you get frustrated, too?

Timing is everything. Lots of tantrums happen because your child is either tired or hungry. Many moms find that if they are heading out or need to run errands, it’s very helpful to try to make sure their kids are well-rested and have a little something in their tummies before leaving the house.

Use positive reinforcement. When your toddler behaves well, try telling him how proud you are of them and rewarding him with a healthy treat or a trip to the park. These rewards may help will motivate him to behave well in the future so he can get more of the same.